By Rojina Kandel
According to Urban Dictionary, “Love is the act of caring and giving to someone else. Having someone’s best interest and well-being as a priority in your life. To truly love is a very selfless act.” “Loving someone is about accepting them for who they are,” explains psychosexual and relationship therapist and psychotherapist Sarah Calvert, even the things that you might not necessarily like about them, such as how messy they are. Loving someone means even loving the mundanity of your day-to-day life together and building a real commitment to the other person, Sarah explains.
“Being in love is associated with intense feelings of passion, infatuation, obsession and lust,” says Sarah. You can tell that you are in love with somebody if you feel like you miss them all the time, feel a desperate need to be with them or feel like you cannot concentrate on other things. However, love can also take up a lot of energy and feel very consuming, adds Sarah, and it may cause you to see an ‘idealized’ version of the other person, which is where the phrase ‘love is blind’ comes from. “Being in love causes changes in our bodies as we release dopamine, the ‘feel good; a hormone which gives us a sense of euphoria or pleasure”, explains Sarah. When we are in love, our bodies also increase the production of norepinephrine, adds Sarah, which makes your heart race and gives you extra energy causing hyperactivity.
Getting connected with the main topic of this article, it can be said that the definition of love for a woman is “Love is a passionate, unconditional commitment to another person. Because of your intense desire for the other person, love inspires you to strive to be the finest version of yourself that you can be.” Women think that true love is unselfish and unconditional. Women just want to be loved. Love is the one powerful thing which can make a woman change her religion, cross seven seas, and even forget herself. For women loving is about daily dying to oneself and picking up oneness as a couple. It’s about giving up “me” for “us”. It’s about putting other needs before your own.
Mostly for a married woman, love means to realize that sometimes your opinion doesn’t have to take the front seat. Life isn’t just about you. Every day a marries woman can find herself laying down her life in small ways for others, most times, her kids and husband. She gives up her name to take up his. She makes major life decisions based on what is best for her family, not just for herself. That’s daily dying to her and being alive in another entity, her family.
Sometimes it just happens like this, loving a woman might make you a more godly man cause she will push you until you just have to pray harder, read the word more, and trust God more. Women need and love the men whom they can follow. He needs to have a vision, conviction, capability, character and commitment. Women need affection. Romance for her could be rubbing her feet because she spends the day in impossible heels. It could be taking her to dinner because she loves fine dining and dressing up. It could be holding her hand as you walk in town cause that’s what gets her. Women also need to trust to feel that they are truly loved by their men. Men can make women feel secure by providing, protecting, being dependable and committed. This creates an environment for her to flourish and bloom like a flower garden.
The views expressed in this article are the author’s own and do not necessarily reflect People’s Review’s editorial stance.
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